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Uncategorized July 3, 2026

Why do I keep thinking ‘it’s my fault’? Understanding guilt in the grieving process

There is a thought that can often recur during the grieving process. Sometimes it surfaces gently, almost like a background murmur. At other times, it is more persistent, more direct, and difficult to shake off: ‘It’s my fault.’ It may be linked to something specific – a moment, a decision, an unspoken word. Or it may be more diffuse, less defined, but still very much present. A general sense of not having done enough, of having got something wrong, of having been able to do things differently. If you recognise this, it’s important to say straight away: it’s not unusual, nor does it mean you’re ‘thinking the wrong way’. It’s one of…

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Uncategorized June 28, 2026

It’s not just sadness: why do you feel empty after a loss?

Many people associate grief with intense, constant, recognisable pain. Yet, at many times – or sometimes even for long periods – what emerges is something different: a feeling of emptiness, of detachment, of a lack of energy. You may feel numb, as if your emotions were distant or hard to access. And this often gives rise to a silent question: ‘What’s wrong with me?’ In this online session, we’ll start right here: with those experiences that are often misunderstood or unrecognised during the grieving process, but which are actually very common. We’ll look at how this emptiness manifests itself,…

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Uncategorized June 25, 2026

How do the symptoms of grief change over the first few months?

In the first few months following a loss, many people wonder whether what they are experiencing is normal. You may find yourself overwhelmed by grief in the first few weeks, then go through a few more stable days, only to find yourself swept up in a wave of sadness, anger, tiredness or confusion once again. This pattern can be disorientating. Sometimes it feels as though you’re not getting any better, or that you’re taking one step forward and two steps back. In reality, the symptoms of grief in the early months almost never follow a straight line. Grief is not an orderly, predictable journey that is the same for everyone. It is a process of…

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Uncategorized June 24, 2026

How to support someone after a funeral

There is a moment, after the funeral, that often goes unnoticed. It is when it’s all over: people go home, the messages dry up, and the silence deepens. And it is precisely then that, for many people, the grieving process takes on a new form. If you’re trying to support someone through this phase, it’s helpful to start here: you’re no longer in the ‘visible’ phase…

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Uncategorized June 20, 2026

How to talk about your loss: finding the words when they seem to be missing

There comes a time, when you’re grieving, when you find yourself faced with a very real and difficult situation: someone asks you ‘How are you?’, or you have to explain what’s happened, or you feel the need – but also the struggle – to talk about your loss. And that’s when something can happen that is both very simple and very complex at the same time: you don’t know what to say; you just don’t know what to say. The words won’t come, or they do come but they don’t really capture how you feel. Sometimes you feel you’re saying too much. Other times, too little. Sometimes you feel exposed. Other times, invisible. If you’re asking yourself this question – how…

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Uncategorized June 13, 2026

Gratitude in grief: remembering what the relationship has left behind

When we talk about grief, the emotions most often mentioned are sadness, anger, a sense of emptiness, longing, anxiety and guilt. These are all common and understandable experiences, which are part of the way human beings react to the loss of someone or something important. Much more rarely, however, do we speak of gratitude. Yet, for many people, there comes a time when something different emerges alongside the pain. Not necessarily straight away. Not necessarily in a lasting way. But enough to raise a question: ‘How can I be in so much pain over the…

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Uncategorized June 3, 2026

How grief can change relationships

When we talk about grief, we almost always think of the pain of loss. Much less often do we consider another, quieter but equally profound effect: the change in relationships. After a loss, it is not just how you feel that changes. The way you relate to others changes too. Conversations, priorities and expectations change. Sometimes the people around you change too. And this can be surprising, disorienting and, in some cases, even hurtful. Grief is not just an individual experience. Although the pain is experienced in a deeply personal way, grief is always also an experience…

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Uncategorized May 27, 2026

How to calm your body when you’re in pain: what’s really going on and where to start

When you’re suffering, especially after a loss or whilst grieving, it’s natural to think that it’s all happening ‘in your head’. Thoughts become persistent, emotions seem overwhelming, and you often feel as though you can’t stop yourself. Yet, if you observe yourself a little more closely, you realise there is another level, just as powerful and often harder to manage: the body. The heart racing for no apparent reason. Shallow breathing. Constant tension in the shoulders or stomach. Deep fatigue that doesn’t go away even with sleep. Or, conversely,…

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Uncategorized May 21, 2026

Grief in childhood: talking about loss to make sense of it

Grief is an inevitable part of every human being’s life, yet when it comes to children, it still tends to be shrouded in silence, hesitation and misunderstanding. Faced with loss, many adults feel at a loss: they fear saying too much, saying the wrong thing, or exposing the little ones to a pain they imagine to be unbearable. This concern often leads to an implicit choice: to remain silent, to put it off, to protect. But is this really the kind of protection children need? Children and the perception of loss Contrary to what has long been thought, children do not…

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Uncategorized May 15, 2026

Apathy and loss of motivation following a bereavement

There are people who, following a bereavement or a significant loss, expect to feel bad in the ‘traditional’ way: crying a lot, feeling constant pain, having a visibly broken heart. But then something else happens; they can no longer muster the energy to get up. Things that used to make sense suddenly seem distant; replying to a message takes effort, as does going to the shops, working, going out, even choosing what to eat… everything feels like a struggle. And then a question arises that is often frightening: “What is happening to me?” Perhaps this has happened to you too. Maybe you don’t even feel “sad” in the way that…

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