Why do I keep thinking ‘it’s my fault’? Understanding guilt in the grieving process
There is a thought that can often recur during the grieving process. Sometimes it surfaces gently, almost like a background murmur. At other times, it is more persistent, more direct, and difficult to shake off: ‘It’s my fault.’ It may be linked to something specific – a moment, a decision, an unspoken word. Or it may be more diffuse, less defined, but still very much present. A general sense of not having done enough, of having got something wrong, of having been able to do things differently. If you recognise this, it’s important to say straight away: it’s not unusual, nor does it mean you’re ‘thinking the wrong way’. It’s one of…
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